“Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire” ~Anonymous
When I was young, the ultimate success for me was not to fall asleep in the Physics class, then it changed to the ability to be able to listen to “New Kids On the Block” new song without being caught. Yes, People, I am from that generation! By the way, they are still singing and doing concerts until now jointly with Backstreet Boys in the US, but under a new shorter name: “NKOTB” See, everyone is using acronyms nowadays and not only Millennials!
At a later stage, success looked more like mirroring Ally Mcbeal in her famous series as a single young lawyer working for one of the top ranked law firms in Boston looking for love and fulfillment in life.
That’s when I knew I found my career path, especially that it included arguing, analyzing, plotting, talking non-stop and wearing nice suits! Now, you know the reason why I became a lawyer. All the credit goes to Ally (in addition to so many other reasons including my longing urge to help and bring justice to this World).
Nowadays, success for me is to have a positive impact on people while having and maintaining my own peaceful life. At each stage of your life, the concept of success changes as your goals do. What ultimate success means to you may not be overseen by others as such, as we all have different goals and motivations. I love how Elizabeth Gilbert linked success with the feeling of “going home”, by finding and pursuing something worthy that you love more than you love yourself.
Every person you meet will recommend to you different recipes of success based on their own experiences or those of others they are connected to or inspired by. There is no right or wrong answer; what works for someone might not work for you. Nevertheless, what I have found common across are those three ingredients: Passion, Positivity and Perseverance, or how I like to call them the “Magic 3Ps”.
You cannot succeed in anything you want in life if you are not passionate about it. Passion is the key driver for success, in my opinion it overcomes tools, skills and talents as those can be taught, or given but you cannot teach someone to be passionate about an idea, goal, deliverable or a purpose. You cannot teach someone to be enthusiastic, excited, proud, happy, and love what they do or planning to do. Passion is the Emoji of the smiling face with 2 heart shaped eyes. This is how your face looks like every morning when you wake up to pursue your dreams, visions and goals. Having this safe space and platform to write to you, share ideas, connecting with your souls, and hopefully making a difference is one of the things that makes my face look like that Emoji every morning.
But what about positivity?
Do you think that your continuous nagging, complaining, attention seeking and self-condemnation will make you successful? Please think again! I am sure some of you have heard the story of the lion and the mouse that our parents used to tell us before we sleep (now, I am guilty of telling my boys the good night story of the Sweets Village where anyone lives there can have ice-creams, chocolates and candies as much as they can without gaining weight! Don’t judge me, I have a wide imagination when it comes to sweets). Back to the lion and mouse story. In that story, the King of the Jungle died from the mouse only by the latter threating jokingly the lion that he will be able to kill him even if he is the King of all animals. What killed the lion, without any action from the mouse was his negative mindset and beliefs around the possibility of that small mouse potentially harming him. So, he died from sickness and being paranoid. Although this is a children’s fictional story, but you got my point, right?
Your mindset has a big role to play in achieving what you want. I am aware that most of things around us are negative nowadays, just listen to the news for five minutes and you literally would want to give up on this life, not only your goals and dreams. But as I am the Hope Spreader and the Never Give Upper, I urge you to put on your Perseverance Helmet and not to give up. You will face dozens of obstacles, you will fail, and be criticized as unfortunately people get intimidated from those of us who follow their dreams, work hard and hustle everyday to get their version of success. You cannot simply give up because you failed. We all fail! Every inventor has failed, every inspirational and successful person you know has failed, every visionary, changer, believer and leader has failed.
Now tell me a valid reason why you want to give up on your goals and dreams, and if they are valid, I will promise you to write my next post about “The Beauty of Giving Up” and stop telling “the Sweets Village” story to my boys before they sleep! These are hard promises for me to make, but I am making them now publicly as I have a strong feeling that my next post will only be about “The Beauty of Resilience”, and how you overcome the obstacles in your life.